QUIET...

Except for Desi, thing have been quite on the home front.  I took a down day yesterday and never left the house and hardly the sofa.  That was probably a good thing since it was close to one hundred degrees yesterday.  Today is another story though, I have to leave and have a dozen errands to run.

As for Desi, he is headed up north for a couple days to check on a job site.  Talk about hot.  I don't envy him the drive or the weather. He will be coming back early on Saturday morning.  We were going to go out both Friday and Saturday, but in keeping with never knowing what he has to do, Saturday ended up being the night we will be able to go out. I don't know how he drives for five hours and then can go out for the evening, but he does this all the time.  I'll take what I can get, which beats going out with someone you really don't like.

I had sent Desi an email listing choices of places to go, as he had asked me to pick a place I wanted to have dinner and dance on Saturday night.  They are few and far between for older people as it seems every dance club is for thirty year olds.  I gave him a choice of about five places and he thought he would opt for the Newport Beach Elks, which is fine with me.  Inexpensive drinks, great food, as the Chef there was the Chef for several Presidents...Ford, Reagan, etc. not to mention the drinks are only three twenty five a piece. When I hear what time he will be at my house then I'll make the reservations for us.

I'm off today to go back to the stores that I left the information for the Fashion show ads.  Then lunch with a friend and off to do a lot of errands.  I find that I now have to write everything down to be sure that I get everything done that I mean to do. I use to be able to remember everything when I was working but those days are long gone.

I'm off to get ready for the day....

SUNDAY BRUNCH...

Yesterday, Sunday, I did meet up with studio man at the Balboa Bay club for brunch.  I still didn't want him to come by my house so told him I would meet him there.  In retrospect that was a very wise plan.

He arrived about three minutes after I did and walked into the lobby. He was shorter then I remembered, balder and really not my type.  What was I thinking?  He was very pleased to see me and as we walked back to the dining room it was the touchy feely guy thing.  We had talked, in the last three months or so ,quite a bit on the telephone, so I suppose he thought that gave him license.  I hate being mauled in public, especially by someone that you really don't have a connection to.

We did have a great brunch with a window table looking out at the water.  Of course all I could think of was how was I going to get out of this date gracefully.  The conversation was good and basically saved what could have been a dismal time. He kept telling me I was more beautiful then he remembered.  Brownie points.

After brunch we walked down the hall to and stopped at the boutique that is in the Club.  I always like to check out what is in the store, just in case I find something.  He wanted to buy me something, but I thought better of it. I didn't want to be obligated to him in any way.  He paid the valet parking and we drove to the shopping center to find the movie we had wanted to see.

His comment, which I had heard him say before, was that a man should show his wealth on his women, His women? I don't think so.  I find one theme is prevalent with most of the men I meet and that is they are all looking for a permanent relationship and want someone to love them.  A big on- going theme is they want someone to cuddle in bed.  Yeah right, cuddle (guess they changed the word for sex somewhere down the line.) I suppose a little bit of me wants someone to love me, but I'm really not going to jump at the first man out there that offers to take care of me. Especially not a short, balding, Jewish man that was draped with gold.  Didn't the seventies go away a while back? 

He had driven for three hours to come to Orange County from the Valley and we had only been at brunch for two hours.  I suggested we go to a movie but that didn't turn out.  One theatre was being renovated and the other  group of theatres wasn't showing the movie we wanted to see.

He didn't want to go home and suggested we go for a drink.  After trying one place that didn't open until five o'clock we walked next door to a place that was open.  Two drinks later, all I could think of was getting out of the place and sending him on his way.  He had big plans to come home with me which I kaboshed.  Again, the touchy feely thing and this time with a kiss that had his tongue in my mouth....Ugh....why do men think that you want to do that, first of all out in public and second of all with someone that you've known for a nano second and have no connection with in any way shape or form.  Again, the valet brought the cars forward and he paid, and I took off like a shot for home.

Today I had a message from him that said I needed to think about all the things we had talked about.  Our conversation, at least on my end, was I was on a different page then he was and I was seeing someone I liked,(Desi) and there were many reasons why I didn't want a relationship at this time.  I emailed him back stating exactly what I had told  him and this time ended it with "I wish you the best in finding someone that meets your needs," and it wasn't me. So another man bites the dust.

Today I heard from several men on one of the sites.  One was kind of my type, but his lifestyle wasn't for me.  I have found, not to be a snob, if they live in a certain area they usually don't fit into my world..  Financially they don't fit the bill and what they enjoy doing isn't anything I would consider doing. Rv's, I don't care if there million dollar ones, are rv's and camping is camping.  Not this girl. These men really don't read as I have all that stated in my profile.

I'm sitting here waiting for my friend so we can go out to dinner, She just returned from her trips and I'm looking forward to having a nice evening playing catch up.

More tomorrow.

SURFACING.....

It is interesting to me how just about everyone that has contacted me has come back into my circle again.  Studio man who has been MIA sent me a text and said he has been up to his ears in set building for several new t.v. shows and has been working seven days a week.  He wants to get together on Sunday, but doesn't know if he will have to be involved at work.  I told him to call me Sunday morning if he was going to be available. He called after the text and sounded totally stressed out.  While we were talking he had four other phone calls and I had to put on hold  until he returned to his phone and our conversation.  He is busier then Desi, which is saying something.

Then there is the man from Ann Arbor, Michigan, not to geographically desirable, but very nice looking. He wants to call me to talk and thinks we would be great together.  Michigan??? Don't think so. That along with a very good looking younger guy that lives near Desi's end of town.  It is always raining men. I don't meet to many of them anymore, I'm to busy and frankly seem to be focused more on Desi then anyone, and my volunteer work.  It works for Desi and I  even though we don't see each other that often. It really gives me time to do what I want to do.  Of course he gets to too.

I'm debating whether to go out tonight or not.  I probably should keep myself at home and wind down.  Next week is another busy one so I should regroup.

This is Lucy signing out!

NOTHING EXCITING...

Desi left a message on my answering machine last night stating that this week wasn't going to be good.  He said he would call me later.  I heard from him today and he is out of town for several days on business. He promised two days next weekend.....I'll see. He told me he had a great opportunity to go into a corporate situation but knowing how he loves to be in charge, I can't imagine him taking the position,which is a huge one, as it will curtail his free spirit and running his own business.

I had a nail appointment today and a doctor appointment after which I drove down South to Lamp's Plus to pick him a product to clean crystal chandeliers by spraying and allowing them to drip dry. the ballroom at the Elk's needs a good scrubbing and there are probably eight or more huge lights that need help.  They are going to try the product to see if it works.  It will.

I came home stayed for an hour and then drove up to a meeting.  We were giving the Salvation Army backpacks for the motel kids who move from place to place and don't have homes or anything new.  This at least gives them something to start out with.  Fifty women bought or had donated over five hundred backpacks that were gratefully accepted.

I also managed to get four people to donate furniture and items for the Women's Vet house.

I will make this short, it is late and I'm tired.  More  tomorrow.

FAST AND FASTER

Today I had an appointment with my dentist to see him about putting an ad in the fashion show brochure.  He and his wife are so sweet, not only are they doing a full page ad, they are giving a whitening session as a opportunity prize.  The money that is acquired from this  show will be used for the many charities that the Elks contribute to and will be put to good use.

After leaving the dentist I drove up to see the chairwomen of the American First section of the women's club I belong to and gave her the toothbrushes I had garnered for the Homeless Vets.  She thought she would save them for stocking stuffers for Christmas, which is a good idea.

After I met with she and her husband, who did some printing out of letters for me, I went to some friends house to check up on them to see how they were doing.  Neither one of them is in good shape.

Home now, but my next door neighbor just gave me a huge black bag of clothes to give to the Vets.  I'll be going to a meeting tonight to honor the scholarship teenager that won $65,000. for his work with others and was selected as number one out of  the whole country. We sponsored him and it is really a  nice honor for him and for us.

Men.  A call from the wine problem man again.  He had sent me a text message saying that he now was going to return the broom he had bought for me.  I didn't respond to that idiot statement, but not to be ignored , he asked why I hadn't.  Really! Go away.

Desi is busy this week and I'm hoping he surfaces towards the end of the week. I'm swamped this week.  Tomorrow is another big one with lunch and then a meeting about re decorating....I'm really enjoying being busy.  There will come a time that I won't be able to do what I'm doing so I'm doing as much as I can do while I can.
Write more tomorrow.

BRUNCH AND DUCKS

I went to the Mexican Brunch Fundraiser and there must have been over two hundred and fifty people there.  It was a great turn out and raised a lot of money.  I met a couple I know and we enjoyed our conversation above the throng.  There were a lot of people there that I talked to and then got asked to go to a rubber duck race in Newport Beach, after the brunch , by another couple.  I'm so glad that people actually want me around and don't seem to consider me a fifth wheel.

It is so nice to be able to do what you want with no one to answer to.  Should I decide not to go home I don't, or if I want to, I can.  I decided to meet this couple in Newport and stayed until after the duck races.  I returned home about three pm.

Prior to leaving the parking lot at the Mexican Brunch, I had a phone call from a young man that had planned on meeting me today for coffee.  I decided, even before I got his phone call that no way was I going to meet him,  First of all he is only thirty four although emailing back and forth he is pretty sharp mentally and professes to be a writer of musical lyrics and poems.  That's about the only thing we would have in common and able to talk about.  I had told him I could be his muse.  He was fun to spar with and hear the younger side of things. He was originally from the Chicago area but thirty four, come on.

Why in the world a man that young (question the man part) would want to be with an older lady is beyond me.  I have decided that I do not need to be a Grandma Cougar, and any encouragement on my part, even by chatting has to stop. So I will block him on my computer and not answer his text or phone calls should he call.  He does live about sixty miles away, so that is good.  He certainly should be able to find a girl near his age.  He is a good looking guy, big and seems to have a good personality  and he should be able to find someone without any problem.  Just not me.

I keep wondering why I hear from so many younger men.  I have a feeling that the women that are younger come across as to needy and it scares these guys off.  Either that or they have way to much baggage in their life.  I'll never know for sure.

I did hear, again, from the man where  I ended up buying the wine that evening.  He texted me and was upset and mad at me. He waited a couple days to contact me. Very funny!  Like it was my fault.  In a way it might have been, as I didn't really read the text I received from him, as I was driving, but even if I had, I would have thought he was kidding.  Poor injured party that he was he lit into me for embarrassing him.....the nerve of some people is just amazing. Then he added that he really wanted to have a relationship....good Lord, men are delusional.

Off to relax and watch t.v.

LIFE AT THIS POINT IS GOOD....

It is a way of life for most of us, unless you are in a mentally delusional state, that life has its ups and down and some days are good and some not.  Right now everything is good and I hope it stays that way, at least for a while.

I had a very, very nice night, last night, with Desi.  He again drove three and a half hours to get to my place.  We had a drink and then left to go to dinner and dancing.  The place we decided to go was the Foxfire.  Talk about a contrast of different sides of a place.  The dining side is very staid.  Almost like a funeral parlor, with men in tuxedos waiting table with the demeanor of morticians.  At least our waiter had that persona. Desi and I have a lot of fun and most of it is critiquing others , although they don't know we are doing that.

Surprisingly the food was very good.  The reason we were both amazed that the food was good was that the clientele entering on the bar/dance side was questionable. 

We couldn't figure out where so many and I mean, several hundred, people that dressed and looked like they bought everything  at a bad Good Will lived.  The amount of women poured into short, short sausage dresses and cheap shoes was astounding.  The men weren't much better, although to give them credit they at least weren't wearing every imaginable body showing outfit you could find.  There were a lot of fat women, with boobs pushed up to their chins,  that shouldn't have been wearing what they were wearing.  Don't they look in the mirror? Desi said they look in the medicine cabinet mirror.  He probably was right.  I told him I thought they went shopping with a girlfriend and the girlfriend didn't want competition, so they told them they looked hot in what they were purchasing.  NOT!!! 

We stayed several hours and were sitting with a girl, her boyfriend and her aunt, as seats were at a premium, who were about the only normal people in the place.  They concurred about the people and outfits, so I know it just wasn't Desi and I being snobs. 

It was fun. Desi can be quite profane and funny and he had everyone laughing..  He saw one poor four hundred pound gal, who was wearing a short, short dress that had flowers all over it, and declared her the triple crown winnah!  Thank heaven she didn't hear him, but he got it right.It was a lot of fun and we did a lot of laughing, but we won't be going back.  We really didn't fit in.

Desi will be around for several weeks, although working.  He headed out for the desert to look at property and is still trying to play catch up after being gone for weeks. Desi has decided something, that I knew a long time ago, we have a really strong connection of "like.":  I can honestly say I haven't felt this way about anyone in my whole life.  Even though we don't see each other that much, when we do it is sparks, fun and comfortable. And to think he had to coax me to meet him way back when because I thought he was to young.

I'm headed out for a gallery showing tonight at the Fine Arts Center in Irvine an then tomorrow morning it will be a Mexican brunch for a fund raiser.

Life really is good right now.