MEETINGS ETC.............

Thursday's meeting for the Marine Corp Ball was extremely fruitful. The five of us, four men and me, decided on a Band, price, offering of two different meals, color guard and fliers.  Since we have been meeting for months, this is the first time we have really made progress. We are hoping after things are finaled we can get more people from the District to volunteer to help.  We still need to get the tickets made, opportunity prizes etc.  I've done so many functions through the years that the only difference with this one is that it involves men.  We'll see how this works out.

We set a date for the next meeting and the head of the District had to change it due to a conflict.  There were an email between our local man and the District man that turned into a little snarky exchange.  The boys aren't playing nice in the sand box. I"m sure this is just a small blip.

I worked on my star wands, which if I say so myself turned out great.  I'm gearing up for next Friday's trip to Ontario and the Hilton.  My big concern is what evening gown to wear....I know everyone should have that concern.  The problem is that hardly anything fits me as they are to big.  Another non problem, problem. I'm sure I'll find something in the back of my closet that I can jerry rig.  The gown I was going to wear is way to sexy for that group so it will remain in the closet until I can bring it out for the next function that demands that type of dress.

My brother is back in northeast Ohio in meetings with his college board that he is on.  He will be visiting relatives while he is back in Ohio. I suppose one of these days I need to haul my butt back there to see people.  My only thought is that the key word is from and returning is a scary thought. I always feel like I'll never get out of that state once I return.

Haven't heard from Dez for a day or two.  I know he is in Alabama and I don't know if his eighth grandchild has been born. I hope so.  I figure he'll tell me if that happens.  It will delay his coming back to California if it happens next week,  but duty is duty. He is still bitching about the birth screwing up his April work. 

Vet man has sent me texts almost daily.  When we were sitting at the table at the MCB meeting several guys, that I know, who have wives, came by and there wasn't one of them that didn't stop kiss me hello or put their arms around me.  The table boys told me to stop flirting.  Really? Vet man expecially razzed me about it.

I wish I wasn't so picky.  There are very few men I'm attracted to or that I want to go out with and when I do decide to go out it is usually a disaster, to wit the San Diego guy.  You would think after having over six thousand men view my profile on Match that I would be able to find one that is acceptable besides Dez.  Not so. I left Senior People Meet, where Dez contacted me, and several other sites. I came so close to not meeting Dez as I thought he was way to young.  He literally begged me to meet him for coffee, which turned into lunch and a six hour meeting.  Young or not there is something there for both of us, which he has admitted to.  Pheromones I suppose.  We keep saying our relationship is casual and I'm hoping in a lot of ways it stays that way.  He is to much of a bad boy and as I told him he basically is a player and a sports dater.  He wasn't happy with that title, but if the shoe fits.  I use to be and could be again, but the choices of men are so sad out there in the big old world, it seems like way to much trouble. Dez travels way to much to have any permanent relationship and as for me I don't think I want a permanent anything.  Although I've learned to never say never.

So after planting some pots, washing clothes,cleaning, and fluffing myself up I'm ready to relax.  Tomorrow I'm volunteering at a breakfast in the early a.m.

Happy Saturday!

TUESDAY AND WEDNESDAY.....

Tuesday my good friends picked me up to take me to dinner and a meeting. It was a nice evening and we all enjoyed it. I am so very lucky to have such accommodating people in my life.  They are so willing to do so much for me.

My friend Connie's husband Jerry passed away Monday evening in the hospital.  He had been sick for so long and just miserable.  It was really a blessing for both of them. She is trying to get through things and thank heaven she has a great son that is helping her.  She has borderline dementia and is having a hard time understanding things and retaining information.

To go on to the San Diego man.  OMG.....I had sent him that email saying to bury the idea that just because he was driving a hundred miles to see me he wasn't spending the night unless he got himself a motel.  He didn't answer me so I really didn't know if he was coming up or not.  I sent him a text saying I assumed that he wasn't coming after the email I sent. He called immediately and said he was coming and the email did upset him as he wasn't planning on staying.  He said that he was thinking about what he said that was wrong.  How about saying your bringing you dog so you would have him with you just in case.

He called on the way and said he was in traffic due to an accident on the freeway.  When he finally  arrived he had a lovely bouquet of flowers for me.  He wasn't bad looking, but old looking for sixty,  tall and so nervous he never shut up.  I kept looking at him wondering how I was going to get through an evening with him. He told me he couldn't believe my age and was awe struck.  Nice to be fluffed up but not a new statement.

He brought his own wine, fine with me, had a drink and chattered away and I finally suggested we leave for the restaurant.  We ended up taking my car since his was some sort of van thing. When went in and sat in the bar ordered a drink and he went on and on.  He was also a touchy feely guy that totally turned me off.  I kept telling him that on a first date one doesn't paw.  Again I kept thinking how the hell was I going to get out of this date.

The waitress and owner, both who I know were so sweet, I think they knew this wasn't working out very well. They both kept coming over to the table and checking on me.  He really was a piece of work and had the oddest personality.  He traveled to a lot of places on business that one wouldn't want to go.  Iraq, Algeria, etc.  Sounded awful.

Two hours later that were painfully long ended when I said we needed to leave. When the bill came he said he had forgotten his money and it was in his briefcase in his van.  He had forty five dollars with him and the bill was eighty six plus tip and valet. We had had two drinks and two small plates of bar food.  Fried eggplant chunks and cut up prime rib pieces.  I ponied up the balance of the bill  and thought this was just great...another nail in his coffin.

On the way back home I just told him he wasn't really someone that I wanted to see again and I wished him luck on finding someone.  This was a date through a dating site and I have found after almost two years of doing this off and on that most of the men are not acceptable.

He wasn't happy about it but took it better then I thought.  Since I had probably mentioned Dez a lot through the evening, deliberately ,he knew that there was someone else I liked.  So after coming in and getting his bottle of wine he left and of course didn't offer to reimburse me the money.  However I just couldn't wait for him to leave money or not.  He left without incident.   Thank God! Another lesson learned. I did get off the dating site and hope I don't have to deal with strange weird men in the future.  He definitely was the strangest man personality wise.

Dez had fixed a the two towel bars for me and when I went to hang a towel on the long one half of it fell off the wall.  I emailed him telling him about it and he called me immediately.  He said he had only fixed the one side and told me I needed to get a new bar as this one was put in wrong and the screws weren't set correctly.  He sounded tired and was bitching about his April being screwed up due to the fluctuating due date of his son and wife's first baby.  He told me he was planning on being back next week either Wednesday or Thursday  Since he is in Florida and leaving for Alabama today his schedule is tight and was going to try to get down to see me.

I have to be in Ontario over night for a State convention that I'm co-chairing so depending on baby arrival I'll see him, maybe.....

Vet man still isn't feeling well but we have a Marine Corp Ball meeting tonight, Thursday, and he said he would be there.

So, that is my two days and tomorrow, Friday ,my friend Marcia and I are going to the movies.

More later.

Monday-----------

I just returned from my meeting in South East Irvine.  Now to get ready, yet once again, to go out for my doctor's appointment.

I heard from the San Diego man twice yesterday.  He is quite the talker.  I have a feeling that meeting him will be a giant waste of time.  He can be a little tedious on the phone and I found myself glazing over while he was talking. Non stop verbal chatter bores me.

Around nine Sunday evening he called again to just chat because he was bored.  I will say you find out a lot, most of it you don't want to know about, but I find that a lot of men are Mr. Talkington's,  He told me about his six foot mom who lived in St. Louis.  How he was an only child...etc., etc, etc.

Had to leave for my appointment and am now back. My good friend Judy took me to Laguna Niguel so I could get zapped by the dermatologist.  He also took three biopsies of things to send to the Lab. So great to get older with age spots, barnacles etc.  This guy was great and very, very thorough. Finally a dermatologist that will remove things you want gone. Yea!

So, now it is home, ironing and relaxing.


Tomorrow is another day.

A DEZ WEEKEND....

Friday arrived with the predicted bad weather.  I kept waiting for a phone call cancelling Dez and my date.  It didn't happen,  He arrived an hour earlier then expected. If nothing else he is full of surprises.

Dez had made reservations at a restaurant and dancing place in Laguna Niguel.  We originally were suppose to go to a 70's dance party on Saturday night and I had already asked people to join us. He had emailed me that week saying he couldn't go and used the excuse of his son and wife's new baby being born and the date was iffy.  I understood but wasn't happy that he told me way to late and I had already asked people.

To make a long story short we did go out Friday night and as he was sitting there he announced that he was going to cancel his hotel and plans for early the next morning in the desert and wanted to be with me one more day.  I think the man has totally gone out of character.  That was fine with me as we have a great time together and laugh a lot even though he can be a giant pain in the butt sometimes.  I know I can be too. Opposite sides of the coin.

So, to make a long story short he did stay one more day, we did go to the 70's dance Saturday night and he left early Sunday morning to go bid his job in the desert.  He will be coming back to Beverly Hills on Monday and then leaving Tuesday for Florida and Alabama then depending on baby arrival will be in Arizona.  When he left he said it would be at least ten days to two weeks before he got back to me. I won't be taking that to the bank.

I have a busy week coming  up.  A meeting on Monday and a dermatology appointment in the afternoon.  Then Tuesday a meeting in the evening for the Vets.  Wednesday I have cocktails and bar food with a new man coming up from San Diego to meet me at four o'clock.  Thursday another Marine Corp Ball meeting and so far Friday, Saturday and Sunday I'm home free.

I did have a text from Vet man Saturday and I told him that Dez was here.....so far I haven't heard anything else.  He knows about Dez so it was not a surprise for him.

Today, Sunday, is a catch up day.  Washing clothes, and basically not much else.

FRIDAY IS HERE.....

Last night, Thursday, Vet man came to the house to pick me up and take me to a meeting in Santa Ana.  Thank God he did. I would have been totally lost in that area.  We had a hard time finding the building we needed.  He parked the car and there were lots of people milling around.  I thought perhaps they were just GQ public, but we found out they were the homeless that camped out in that area.  It is so sad to see so many people without a roof over their head.  You would think in this great country we would address the problem and do something about it.  I know a lot of them have mental problems but somewhere there should be help for them. Had I gone alone I would have been totally freaked out.  I would have gone the wrong way right in between them all.  so many of them were yelling and cursing and acting crazy one never knows what might transpire.    Vet man was very protective and kept asking if I was okay. I was, but very glad he was there.

Vet man really did go above the call of duty.  He had a really bad cold and had spent the day trying to get better.  I gave him a cup of tea with lemon when he came to pick me up and he said that made him feel better.  The poor guy was coming back to pick me up at 9:00 p.m. which turned out to be 9:30 as things ran longer then expected.  So there he was standing out in the cold waiting for me. I really owe him one and I just hope it didn't make him sicker

He still wasn't feeling well and I just got out of the car when we arrived and went in the house so he could get himself home. Vet man was leaving early this morning to go to Burbank to a Veterans meeting and then going to a Dodger game.  If nothing else he keeps busy and then some.

I had a text from Dez yesterday about him coming down today.  My house has the tendency to literally start falling apart on its on.  Weeks ago I had two towel bars just fall off the wall.  Interesting since one of them is never used and is only for decorative towels.  Dez tried to fix it when we got back from Palm Desert but the screw was stripped and he said he would fix it when he came back. Since he is so busy and his mind is certainly on other things other then fixing my towels bars, I thought I better remind him to bring his little bag of tricks when he came down. This morning I replied to his arrival time text asking him to remember to bring his tools and his reply is "will do."  We'll see.

The text I had from him this morning said he would be arriving around 5ish today.  The weather is iffy.  They have predicted rain, hail, tornadoes....right now it is sunny.  Crazy weather.  Although I think that the Valleys and the Mountains will get the extreme weather.  Orange County is a lot milder and San Diego milder yet.

So depending if the Gods of weather keep smiling, he may or may not be here around 5ish.  It is Friday and it will be a two to three and a half hour drive from Beverly Hills, which is ridiculous since it is only forty five miles away. Ah, California freeways. He has to leave for Blythe to bid a job in the morning...a real garden spot...NOT!

The other person I heard from is a Huntington Beach man that wants to have lunch next week.  I find it interesting that the minute I returned to a dating site the men that I had gone out with before came back.  Everyone seems to be having their own problems and are just now surfacing.  Jobs, family, and various other things have kept everyone off the radar, me included.

Have a good weekend, I'll see how things go with Dez.

TIME FLIES....

I can't believe how fast this week went by.  It occurred to me as I was sitting in front of the computer paying bills that I hadn't added anything to my Blog this week.  So I will try to update things.

Since I was in such a funk for Easter weekend and really didn't feel that great I put everyone off as I stated  before.  Monday I did make a dinner date with the guy that I had seen several times that tootled off to Afghanistan and is going back the end of the month.  He works for a company that supplies food for the troops.  Dangerous job as he is located in a camp when he goes over there, that is surrounded by supposed friendly Afghanistan troops.  I wouldn't trust them as far as out the front door with the way Americans are viewed in this world.

We went to Quinn's and had a nice time.  His statement was that in the last year the thing he missed most was touching another human being, meaning a women, of course.  He was very attentive, but my radar was up.  I kept thinking "horny" was probably in the equation.  He has always been a perfect gentleman, and although he is a lot younger then I, I think I really am a cougar, and can't stand the old men that act like they are one hundred and two. I'm really genetically lucky that I can still attract anyone at my age. he  was very sweet.

After dinner we drove back to my house and had a night cap.  He was a needy little devil but I explained that I wasn't jumping in the sack with him and that he really was to young.  Not to mention he was leaving again the end of this month.  He was pretty understanding, not happy, but understanding. Guess I am only a semi cougar. At least he was old enough and respectful enough to know that no meant no.  If I hadn't know him and been out with him several times before he wouldn't have been invited to the house. Very, very few men are allowed to come to my home.

Through the whole day and into the next  I kept getting text messages from Vet man. He wanted to come over after his meeting on Monday and of course I couldn't see him with Afghanistan man present. Dez was off the radar and I kept in mind that if really wanted to get in touch with me he would. I had no idea when he was coming back from up North and didn't ask. I also didn't email or text him as I would have done in the past.  He made the first effort Easter Sunday which was unusual for him.

Tuesday. after our date Monday,  I sent Afghanistan a note that I didn't think it was a wise idea for us to continue seeing each other now or when he got back.  I told him age, logistics and my feelings for someone else came into play. those things sounded better then anything else I could think up.  I received a email back from him saying he appreciated me being up front with him.  I can't imagine what he expected either now or in the future. I'm certainly to old for him. At a certain age it is hard to connect with anyone for men and women alike. He kept telling me I made him feel comfortable.  that's me, an old shoe!

Tuesday was another day of emails from Vet man and text.  I had a text from my ride to the Elks asking if I wanted to go to the meeting.  I begged off and told him perhaps next week.  I had a dental appointment, gas, shopping and a million other things and I was plain pooped.

Wednesday, today, I had an early email from Dez.....he asked if we were still on for Friday.  Since I really don't depend on what he says, I waited a little while to answer him.  He says he is coming down, but it will be interesting as it is suppose to rain and it is Friday.  He wants to go dancing and I have my choice of the Balboa Bay Club, Brio, Elks, Bistango etc.  I told him it was up to him where we went as I didn't care.  I can get dressed up for any of them and that is one of the reasons I love going out with him.  He loves sexy clothes and high heels and so do I and we go places I can wear them.

So today I had my hair trimmed, went to Trader Joe's, the Bank, CVS, and came home to do a little ironing. It rained over night and this morning so it feels good to hunker down and stay home.

My friend Connie is going through a lot and she had called me early this a.m. to tell me about her husband Jerry, who is in the hospital.  He was on life support and now they are sending him to Hospice.  Connie thought this was a plus and I just let her think so.  Hospice is usually the last resort.

So that is my week so far and after reviewing it, it seems busy. Vet man is picking me up tomorrow night to take me to a meeting and then we will see if Dez, who by the way sent me at least 5 emails today, actually shows up in the rain on Friday.

EASTER SUNDAY...

Another holiday gone.  I ended up doing nothing which was fine by me.  I had another chance to go to dinner but declined.

The guy that goes to Afghanistan called and wanted to go out and I said no but maybe tomorrow, Monday.  He just called me back and I agreed to go out with him tomorrow night.  He was more then agreeable.  I sent him the coordinates to get to my place, although he said with his GPS he could find it.  It is a lot of little short streets and I have found GPS units lead one around the primrose path to get to where your going.  This man is fairly young, but he is tall and personable so it should be a nice evening.

Dez sent me an email mail this morning wishing me a "Hoppy" Easter and I responded in same.  It was a surprise since I expected nothing from him. A card and email, has he lost his mind? It is suppose to rain on Friday, when he is suppose to some down, and since traffic is so horrendous in the best weather, I don't look for him to make it. If nothing else he is a pile of contradictions. So we will see.

My age appropriate man called and said he had gotten tied up with various people and apologized for not contacting me sooner about going out tonight.  I didn't feel great and wouldn't have gone anyway, but I kind of put him in the same pile as everyone else.  Unreliable.

Vet man didn't touch base all day and I sent him a text saying Happy Easter and he responded that he was getting ready to go out to dinner.  This was at 3:30 so I'm assuming friends asked him over.  I know never assume.  Who really cares.

So Easter is over and out and the next holiday is Memorial Day.  One by one.