OLDER MEN....

Okay, I tried.  I met a seventy seven year old man for coffee.  Perfectly pleasant but old.  I know, I know, I'm old too, but there is old and there is old.  I will say that the conversation was good and he wasn't a dead beat verbally, however, I kept thinking there was no way in hell I could ever kiss this man.

He was thrilled and had me going out on his sailboat and going to his yacht club (a different yacht club then Vet mans.) for dinner.  I had this thought that I would be taking my life in my hands by going out on the ocean with this fellow.  He had run the race from Newport Beach to Ensenada, Mexico but that was a lot of years ago.  No matter how avid he was and experienced as a sailor I could just see myself at the helm after he croaked of a heart attack while sailing the ocean blue trying to get to shore using a motor that goes five miles an hour..... doesn't sound like something I want to do. Give me a power boat with a captain and crew with the owner sitting having drinks with me and then maybe we'll talk.

I'm a power boat kind of gal.  Ducking booms and pulling up sails or whatever it is one does on a sailing ship is not on my list.  His boat is only a 30 footer and that isn't big enough to be out on the ocean , in my estimation. Not to mention with my knees if I could get on the thing it would be a miracle.

We parted ways after our coffee and as he asked if he could take me to dinner sometime. I really didn't say yes or no but something like call me.  Very non committal.  Did I mention not only was he older but short. He did have his PhD in electrical engineering.  There you go. conservative, never met an engineer that wasn't, and tunnel vision, knowing only what he knows.  God spare me!!

Vet man switched days for dinner again.  He thought that perhaps we should go to his yacht club tomorrow night for dinner instead of a local place that he had thought about going on Sunday night.  He is at the Angels game tonight and his text was short and to the point. I just hope Bruno gets his butt back in town.  I am having a hard time dealing with the peripheral men out there. but I do get bored being alone.

It has been so humid and blasted hot outside that I've pretty much stayed home in the evenings the last couple days.  Facing the world out there isn't something I want to do while I'm glistening with wet hair from all the humidity.

There was a little interesting thing that came up on my Linkedin page.  I hadn't been on Linkedin for a while.  I think about a month ago I went on to change my password when I had all the trouble from some hacker getting into my computer.

My IPhone has an App for Linkedin and there was an indication that I had a new something or other that came up.  Well, low and behold when I opened it , it had a person noted that had read my profile.  You will never guess who it was.  Bruno's ex-wife........so that either means that he told her about me, as they are in business together, she found my address on an envelope or document, I, which I really don't remember doing, looked at her profile on the site, and if I did it was a very long time ago and I don't think she would have looked me up just two days ago. Interesting.  I'm debating whether to show it to Bruno or not.  The notification has her picture and Conmpany name on the site so I know it is her.

Ah, we women are really good detectives, it will be of interest to see if he actually told her or it was a fluke. She is an Architect and Designer, as I am on the site as a Color Coordinator in my past life, she may have come across me that way, but I don't think so.  There are no coincidences.

Nothing from Bruno since the last time we spoke on the phone.  I'll see if he comes into town next week as he said he would. I'm sure he will be happy to be out of the over hundred degree heat in Las Vegas and I will be very happy to have him back.  He is way to much fun.

I'm suppose to go to the Fairgrounds tomorrow to help serve breakfast to the Homeless Vets at a Stand Down they are holding.  It helps them with jobs, showers, medical, dental and food.  I haven't heard from the man that is suppose to drive so I may not be going.  Getting up at O dark hundred isn't something I was looking forward to anyway. 

Off to watch t.v.

RELIABLE, NOT........

I sometimes wonder what in the world is the matter with me.  As expected Bruno didn't call to let me know what his schedule was or when he might show up.  I thought about it for a couple of days and then emailed him saying, "I just love a man of his word, NOT, and what was going on.  I got an immediate reply saying "soon,"what the hell did that mean.  I emailed back that that was a very obtuse answer and he phoned right away.  He obviously shared my email with his crew as he said none of them knew what obtuse meant....ah, construction guys.  At least Bruno did.

Now I know the man is a workaholic and he isn't doing nothing.  The phones were ringing and the men were asking questions as he was trying to talk to me. Seems there was a change in architectural plans and it required more days and more time on his part.  I know I'm down on the totem pole and his plate is very full.  When he knows I'm pissed he responds, but it takes that to get him to respond.
I had told him before that anyone that wanted to be with him had to have a life or their own and I do, but sometimes I get enough of being sans Bruno and I let him know I'm not pleased when he promises a phone call and it doesn't happen.  I needed to know what he was up to so I could plan my week.  I don't want him to think I'm sitting around waiting for him, I'm not, but I do want to see him and I need to know what's up.

He said he would be back in town next week, either Thursday or Friday, and then had to leave for the East Coast.  Since Europe is also coming up for a trip to a Conference in October I need to take a chill pill and enjoy this ridiculous relationship for what it is,  I just like to let him know when I'm displeased.  I don't want him to think he can get away Scot free with no consequences but I also don't want to make it unpleasant for him where he decides he doesn't need to be around a bitch....fine line. I know he is all wrong, but I can't find anyone I like as well and believe me I've tried. We do have a special connection and even he admits that.

Now on to other things.  I just heard from a PhD in electrical engineering who is a widower.  He is seventy seven but likes to ski and sail, neither of which is on my list.  I like power boats and the only thing about skiing I like is the bar at the lodge.  He wants to meet for coffee to discuss both sailing and skiing.  Ha!

Vet man was going to take me out tonight but had a dinner meeting that he forgot about, he has asked to make it for Sunday night.  So far I haven't answered him one way of the other.  He's another one that has to much on his plate.

There is a Stand Down at the fairgrounds for the homeless Vets on Saturday and I promised to help serve breakfast.  Waitressing isn't my strong suite and the thing starts at 6:00 a.m., oh joy.  I'll see if all of this actually happens.

Today I had lunch with a girlfriend of mine.  We were commiserating about life and what transpires after a mate dies whether it was a good or bad relationship it is always hard being alone.   Not that I don't like my aloneness, but sometimes you just want someone to be able to talk to someone without all the sexual nonsense that all of these men have going for them and have no problem spewing forth.

On another note, my sofa has taken another trip back to the factory.  I have everyone from Texas to California, from Designers to the owner taking note of all the problems that have transpired with this custom made piece.  I love the design, now if the factory can just sew the thing right it will be great.  I did say if it had to go back the forth time they could just return my money and I'd go on my way
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God save me from old fools.....me included.

HOT AND HUMID.....

It is 100 degrees in the shade in the backyard and humid.  This is not normal California weather although near the beach it is in the seventies which is only twelve miles away.  The desert is always odd and when you travel inland it gets hotter and hotter.

This morning I went in to help with a take down of the Luau decorations.  One hand washes the other and since I need the gal in charge to take me to a wholesale floral supply to purchase items for the Marine Corp Ball that I need to final up my center pieces, I thought I better offer to help. 

It was so terribly hot on the top floor where all the items are stored I felt like we all had been in a sauna after we were through. I couldn't wait to get myself home to take a shower and sit in my a/c.

It is now almost five o'clock and of course I haven't heard a word from Bruno.  I know he is probably sleeping, that is if he is still in Las Vegas.  Time will tell if he comes through.  If not, no surprise.

Not much else to report right now. So I'll sign off.

PARTIES AND DEATH......

I know that heading sounds a little weird, but it actually isn't.  I attended a Memorial Service today for an acquaintance's long time partner.  He had walked out to the kitchen said he felt strange and dropped dead. What a way to go.  To my way of thinking it beats lingering on with some disease or staying in a hospital bed with tubes coming out of you at all ends.

The party part of it was it was being held were there was going to be a Luau tonight and everyone was scurrying around trying to get t hings decorated.  Life goes on.

Bruno is still stuck in Las Vegas.  He said he would call me tomorrow to let me know what is going on.  Since my up coming week is getting booked up with various things, I had emailed him and told him to let me know if he was actually coming back down to California.  The crew has been staying up all night for over a week.  He is so busy and I know he is making a lot of money, but the way I look at it he won't be able to spend it since he'll be dead and gone.  I'm sure I'll hear all the gory details when he calls me tomorrow.

On the other man front, there was a professor of Theology that contacted me.  Little, bookish and if anyone knows me a bible thumper isn't anyone I want to know.  I explained to him that I had a boyfriend and the reply was, "if you get mad at him, call me  if you break up, call me, if your lonely,call me, if you want to talk, call me, etc.  I just don't get these guys....no doesn't seem to be in their vocabulary.

I stopped at a place the other night on the way home and a couple came in and sat by me.  He was rather obese, but nice enough.  They had been drinking all day and he was begging her to kiss him.  She looked over at me and said to him, "I'd rather kiss he, she's way prettier."  Alrighty then!!!!  I left.  Also a young guy, age 39 that had just broken up with his girlfriend.  When I told him I was old enough to almost be his grandmother he was shocked.  I had to laugh, I guess they think one should be on their last legs at a certain age. His comment was you walk young.....really!!!!

Home sounds better and better and I'm looking forward to seeing and spending time with a good girlfriend of mine who is coming back to town.  We have been friends for forty years and see eye to eye on most things. 

Not much else happening.  I'll see if Bruno comes through with the phone call tomorrow.

Hugs,

LuSinDa

TIME FLIES..........

Well it is Thursday and this week went by in a flash.  Since I can barely remember what I had for breakfast I need to check my schedule on my Iphone to remember what has gone on the last three days.  Monday I had lunch with someone that again turned into being a dud and an inappropriate idiot.  I really do think I'm done with trying to find someone to replace Bruno.  Even though he is never around when he is it is great and when someone finds me I compare and they never measure up.  So until the "bloom is off the rose" with Bruno, for one or the other of us, I will continue to just make him number one.

Monday I also had an eyelash appointment.  I find that eye lash extensions beat false eyelashes and using mascara.  The only problem is to keep them looking nice you have to go in for a refill every two weeks.  Since I hardly ever go to the beauty salon to have my hair done I figure this is a luxury that I can justify.

My technician texted me saying that she had to cancel the above appointment as she twisted her ankle in a Triathlon up North on her bike.  Oh joy!  Another reason not to compete in boy things. So the lashes had to wait until she found another time to work me in. She really does work hard and starts her day at 6:00 a.m.

Tuesday I was planning on staying home all day and getting some things done, which I did until Vet man called and asked me to come to the Elks that evening for a meeting.  I was sort of thinking about going to the regular meeting but decided I wasn't going out of the house as the weather has been horrible....hot and humid.  I did drive over around 5:30, stayed for the meeting, had one drink and decided to go home and not attend.  It is a long meeting and night and getting home at 10:00 p.m. didn't appeal to me.

Bruno called me on Tuesday morning.  He was in Las Vegas, which wasn't a place I expected him to be.  He had been in Maryland but had gotten a call from his friend who was in Shanghai.  There was a restaurant at one of the hotel casinos in Las Vegas that had a kitchen that flooded and needed new equipment and this man couldn't get there to supervise the fix.  He asked Bruno to get a crew up there and fix it and since this could be a huge account encompassing China, France and points wherever, Bruno agreed.  He is doing the Downtown Disney restaurant for him.  Bruno sounded exhausted and explained that he and his crew had been working all night for almost a week and hopefully would be done Thursday.  He said he would be coming back next week, but again, I never count on anything.  He may very well be going to China to supervise the restaurant going in there so where that leaves us is up in the air, or maybe just done.  It is day by day.

Late Tuesday night I had a text from my technician for my eyelashes and she said she could take me at 8:00 a.m. that next morning, Wednesday.  I agreed.  After keeping the appointment I drove home for twenty minutes, then left to go to a Dr. appointment.  Nothing special, just a six month tune up. I'm due for a Mammogram and blood tests.

After that appointment I was meeting a girlfriend who also had a Dr. appointment.  She was delayed a little and I had a chance to stop at a Home Consignment store.  I wanted to find out about selling a couple of chairs and a large ottoman I have that turns into a single bed.  She called when she was done and I drove down to her house.  They are doing extensive backyard work and it is going to be beautiful when it is finished.  Fireplace, bar, outside t.v., fountain, etc.  Can't wait to see it done.

They had also redone the upstairs baths and reconfigured the layout.  I thought it made more sense and updated that bath into a lovely en suite area.  I worked for the builder that built that house and it would be a wonderful idea if they could see what my friends did to the bath.  Never happen, but I personally thought it a great improvement, and much more updated.

After we went through the house she and I left to have lunch at Opah, which is always good.  There are two of these restaurants that I know of and this one in Aliso Viejo is a lot busier then the one near me.  After lunch I drove he home and left to go back to my house and finish some ironing and straighten things up. 

Vet man was coming over after a County meeting.  He was a lot later then I though he would be and didn't arrive until 8:30.  It is so miserably hot and after the day I had I was rally tired.  We had a couple of drinks, talked a bit and he left.  He is always amused by me for some reason and calls me "mayhem." He knows all about Bruno and I think he likes to hear the latest. Vet man is always very flattering and I should be pleased that he thinks I'm so wonderful.  I do think he really knows better.

So, today is Thursday.  Watered the plants, straightened things up a round the house and tonight at 5:30 another Marine Corp Ball meeting.  I will be so glad when this whole thing is over in November.  Of course then it is the Exit for the State President of Hawaii/California coming up that I'm on several committees.  I was voted in unbeknown to me.

Lu Sin Da signing off.

ANOTHER WEEK GONE BY.....

Last week was busy.  I went to the dermatologist to get zapped and excised.  There was a spot on my back, from the sun, that she thought might turn in to melanoma, and she decided to get rid of it.  I'm so tired of being sliced open by doctors.  Stitches are still in and I go back in ten days to have them removed.

I think I left off on Tuesday last week.  Bruno did come back to take me to dinner.  Since I never know where he is or what he is doing I thought he was coming back to town on Tuesday.  It didn't turn out that way.  He didn't have a successful house hunting session in the desert.  The house he thought he wanted wasn't built well and needed another couple of hundred thousand dollars to make it like he wanted it.  Since he is in construction he said it had to many hair line cracks and he thought the slab might need redone, which is cost prohibitive.  So that house isn't going to be the one. He is on a mission and he is like a dog with a bone.  In his case he has so many bones and keeps switching ideas.  My bouncing ball! He had come back to the coast on Monday where he spent the night, all night, supervising the cement pouring at his project at Downtown Disney.  Tuesday he slept all day,  but managed to drive his 100 miles round trip to see me and take me out.

We went to a little place that has great food and Tuesday was fried chicken night.  It really is good and I managed to not eat everything and gave him the left over chicken.  He deemed it a midnight snack.  He left right after he brought me home as he had an early meeting with the Disney people.

I met some friends at the Elks on Wednesday for Taco night, which is always great. Thursday I went to Houston's to meet two girlfriends for lunch.  One of the gals had just returned from three months in England at her manse there.  She was headed out the next day for she and her husband's yacht to spend three weeks.  What a life!  So we played catch up for three hours and promised to get together again as soon as she returned

Friday I had a charity meeting regarding the Vets care packages for their transition out of the homes after they get themselves together.  Then off to another lunch at the Ritz to meet someone that turned out to be a nightmare.  I haven't figured out what is wrong with the men of today. The connection between their minds and their zippers is a short distance.  This guy, who was sixty seven, could only talk about his dead wife of three years and what great BJ's she gave.  Now that is a picture I don't need in my head.  He finally left and I sat and talked to a retired lawyer that was of some interest, but not much.  Bruno is always there in the back of my head.

Speaking of Bruno, yet again, he left a message on my phone Friday around 1:30 that said he was checking in.....now that is a first.  I did ask him to touch base once in a while.  I know he is headed out for the East Coast again, when,I don't know, but I do like to know he is alive. This call was out of character.  As was our drive home from Brio when I mentioned that he was on the wrong road, he wasn't,  He answered "yes dear."  So the next time I didn't say anything and he missed the turn.  Yes dear my ass, pay attention...........

I was suppose to be home by seven or eight Friday night,  as Vet man said he wanted to come over for a drink.  I pulled in and he was at the door in two seconds flat.  He was not happy but then I don't owe him anything and I really don't care. Guess he arrived earlier and I wasn't there. He stayed for one drink and tootled off more then a little pissed.  Although that didn't stop him from emailing the next morning.

Saturday was a birthday lunch for one of the women's clubs I belong to.  It was thirty year celebration.  It is hard to believe that I've been around that long with that organization.  This coming week I have somethings to do, but I'm hoping that things will be a little calmer.

I guess if I keep really busy "they" can't catch me.

BACK

It has been an interesting month.  Dez, who now wants to be called Bruno and has decided to call me Lu Sin Da is on his way from a meeting with some bankers regarding property.  He is one smart guy and how he keeps all the balls in the air is beyond me.

He did arrive and we went out to Mastroe's Ocean Club, which was packed at cocktail hour.  The poeple were dressed very casual and since this is a high end restaurant it was a little strange. However, after we talked to several people it was obvious that they were tourists. Forgot about tourist season. Bruno had on a beautiful black suit with a Hermes tie and looked like a million dollars.  He does clean up. I wore a black small polka dot dress with an assymetrical hem with yellow ruffled heels.  We do make a good looking couple if I say so myself..

We had two drinks and opted to leave.  Bruno keeps his eyes open for faux paux's on women shoes.  I keep telling him he has a shoe fetish.  God forbid some poor women walks in with flip flops, sandals or ugly heels....he is a heel man and probably the only man I know that know about high end designer shoes.  Jimmy Choo, Stewart Weitzman etc. The majority of the women had bad shoes per his take on it.  Since I can't afford to spend $1500.00 on a pair of shoes in this life, I wonder what his take is on mine.

There were two blond gals, complete with large fake boobs.  They sat down next to us at the bar.  I struck up a conversation with one of them and  I said that the pickings in the man department were really slim in the place.  She answered that frankly she was more interested in her food.  Bruno thought that was funny and I just thought it was a sad statement on the man front in the place.

We left and drove to Laguna Niguel to a place called Brio that has a band and dancing.  We again sat at the bar with our favorite bartender Ty.  We ordered some food and again looked around at the people there.  OMG....what a group of humanity.  The crowd kept changing from couples to just women dancing togehter, the Lesbo crowd, and then back to couples.  There was one large women who looked like she might be trans-gender flinging herself all alone all over the dance floor and I mean flinging.  She had a flower in her hair which she eventually attached to the bottom of her dress then proceeded to toss her head up and down like a prancing horse and the word horse is being kind. On a good day she wouldn't have been attractive and to draw attention to yourself you have to wonder if it was drugs, booze, or both. No doubt that was why she was dancing alone.

When we left we decided that Brio had probably seen the last of us.  Bruno says that it is the weird people in Orange County and that LA isn't like behind the Orange Curtain.  I beg to differ with him if my memory serves me right.  There are really a bunch of kooks in that area too. He has promised to take me to LA soon and I can compare.  The next day he said that I was the prettist women in either place.  I said that wasn't saying much considering the crowd, but thank you.

In between Bruno, who by the way canceled on me on the Thursday he was to come down and take me out due to a late schedueld meeting in Beverly HIlls.  Vet man who is Plan "B" said he wanted to take me to dinner and the Vet thing is a good excuse for me.  We went to the Winery where the food is wonderful.  I swear I can't shed these ten pounds for anything.  I wonder why?

Vet man would like more but I just don't have the same feeling for him.  Dumb me.  He let slip that he had inherited about two million from his parents.  I wish money could be the motivator for me, but if it isn't there it isn't there.  Leave it to me to like the bad boy who isn't available and will go into the sunset.  Although he made an interesting statement unsolicited.  He said " you know your the only women I haven't cheated on,"  My answer was "yet."  I figure he is way to busy to bring someone else into his life and if he does go to bed with someone it would be a one night stand.  It was just  an odd thing to say out of the blue. Our converston wasn't even in that ball park.

Saturday morning after our strange date night Friday we went to breakfast.  He tootled off afterward to Palm Desert, where the temperature was suppose to be 108 degrees. to look at houses, he wants to invest out there, and to check on another project he has going.

I'm waiting for him to come back today and again we are gong to dinner.  God save me from the lurking calories.

More later.