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It has been an interesting month.  Dez, who now wants to be called Bruno and has decided to call me Lu Sin Da is on his way from a meeting with some bankers regarding property.  He is one smart guy and how he keeps all the balls in the air is beyond me.

He did arrive and we went out to Mastroe's Ocean Club, which was packed at cocktail hour.  The poeple were dressed very casual and since this is a high end restaurant it was a little strange. However, after we talked to several people it was obvious that they were tourists. Forgot about tourist season. Bruno had on a beautiful black suit with a Hermes tie and looked like a million dollars.  He does clean up. I wore a black small polka dot dress with an assymetrical hem with yellow ruffled heels.  We do make a good looking couple if I say so myself..

We had two drinks and opted to leave.  Bruno keeps his eyes open for faux paux's on women shoes.  I keep telling him he has a shoe fetish.  God forbid some poor women walks in with flip flops, sandals or ugly heels....he is a heel man and probably the only man I know that know about high end designer shoes.  Jimmy Choo, Stewart Weitzman etc. The majority of the women had bad shoes per his take on it.  Since I can't afford to spend $1500.00 on a pair of shoes in this life, I wonder what his take is on mine.

There were two blond gals, complete with large fake boobs.  They sat down next to us at the bar.  I struck up a conversation with one of them and  I said that the pickings in the man department were really slim in the place.  She answered that frankly she was more interested in her food.  Bruno thought that was funny and I just thought it was a sad statement on the man front in the place.

We left and drove to Laguna Niguel to a place called Brio that has a band and dancing.  We again sat at the bar with our favorite bartender Ty.  We ordered some food and again looked around at the people there.  OMG....what a group of humanity.  The crowd kept changing from couples to just women dancing togehter, the Lesbo crowd, and then back to couples.  There was one large women who looked like she might be trans-gender flinging herself all alone all over the dance floor and I mean flinging.  She had a flower in her hair which she eventually attached to the bottom of her dress then proceeded to toss her head up and down like a prancing horse and the word horse is being kind. On a good day she wouldn't have been attractive and to draw attention to yourself you have to wonder if it was drugs, booze, or both. No doubt that was why she was dancing alone.

When we left we decided that Brio had probably seen the last of us.  Bruno says that it is the weird people in Orange County and that LA isn't like behind the Orange Curtain.  I beg to differ with him if my memory serves me right.  There are really a bunch of kooks in that area too. He has promised to take me to LA soon and I can compare.  The next day he said that I was the prettist women in either place.  I said that wasn't saying much considering the crowd, but thank you.

In between Bruno, who by the way canceled on me on the Thursday he was to come down and take me out due to a late schedueld meeting in Beverly HIlls.  Vet man who is Plan "B" said he wanted to take me to dinner and the Vet thing is a good excuse for me.  We went to the Winery where the food is wonderful.  I swear I can't shed these ten pounds for anything.  I wonder why?

Vet man would like more but I just don't have the same feeling for him.  Dumb me.  He let slip that he had inherited about two million from his parents.  I wish money could be the motivator for me, but if it isn't there it isn't there.  Leave it to me to like the bad boy who isn't available and will go into the sunset.  Although he made an interesting statement unsolicited.  He said " you know your the only women I haven't cheated on,"  My answer was "yet."  I figure he is way to busy to bring someone else into his life and if he does go to bed with someone it would be a one night stand.  It was just  an odd thing to say out of the blue. Our converston wasn't even in that ball park.

Saturday morning after our strange date night Friday we went to breakfast.  He tootled off afterward to Palm Desert, where the temperature was suppose to be 108 degrees. to look at houses, he wants to invest out there, and to check on another project he has going.

I'm waiting for him to come back today and again we are gong to dinner.  God save me from the lurking calories.

More later.

BLOGGING...

I'm going to de-Blog for a while...back sometime the end of July....

I'VE BEEN ROBBED......

Not really, although it looks like it in the house at this point in time.  Friday Vet man came and took the five foot sofa for his use and also moved my seven foot sofa bed out the door.  Since I'm getting a sectional the tables, that I've had since the seventies, needed to go away too.

 I think it is time to cleanse all the memories that come associated with these items.  Plus the electric lift chair that Merle, my husband,  used prior to passing on, and a piece I detested, needed to leave too. This morning Saturday, Veterans First came and picked up all the pieces.  They can use them for their thirft store and for the men that transition out of Veterans housing after a year.

My new sofa, which I'm sure is gigantic, will take the place of the above and the Build a Sofa company will be bringing it in between twelve and two today.  I'm hoping this is cathartic and I can get things to look different around the house.  After fourteen years of living here it is really time for a change. Oof course as usual, one thing leads to another and there will be a lot more to do.

Thursday, Dez called and came over to take me to dinner.  We needed to talk after his debacle of standing me up, yet once again.  I know his life is busy and he puts to much on his plate, but enough is enough.  I wouldn't have been so upset, since this is norm for him, if he had at least said he was sorry.  Fat chance on that happening. It never occurs to him.

He ha s a job site going in Orange County so he arrived at the house around five on Thursday..  We had reservations at seven at a local Italian restaurant.  He had drink, changed clothes and we left.  We did have a pretty good talk regarding how things are between us.  His comment was I needed to know that he really liked me, he thought about me a lot and he knew that the problem was he wasn't around enough, due to his travels. I just think he is so used to being a "stray lone wolf" that it doesn't occur to him to use a little consideration.  He keeps saying that the reason my friends don't want me to be with him is that they are jealous that I'm having a good time.  His comment was they aren't going out to dinner and dancing, plays and having a close relationship, ergo, jealous!

Well, I do have a good time with him, but I also am not happy about how things are.  I finally came to the realization if I want to keep seeing him I have to take things as they are and not let it upset me.  You would think at my age I'd be a little smarter, but there is no accounting for chemistry and the feelings that brings.

We returned from the restaurant, which was very, very good and he changed clothes again and left to go back to his job site.  He has cut back on help and he said it was pretty bad for the boss to have to work a split shift.  He was planning on staying until midnight and then going home to sleep and get caught up.  He was suppose to come back on Friday but said he couldn't.....same old, same old.

So, I've decided not to be upset, take it where it goes and if I find someone else that "floats my boat" and I'll go into the sunset if that happens.  Dez is talking about where he might want to be when he retires. We have discussed him going to Paris, Dubai, Cabo San Lucas, Hawaii etc.  He is a traveler of the world and he can pretty much do what he wants when he wants.

So, I'm off to wait for the sofa guys and I need to vaccuum the carpet, again.

Tomorrow is breakfast with friends. 

ANOTHER DEZ BLIP........

It is Tuesday and the last time I blogged was Friday.  I was waiting for Dez to show up to take me to lunch.  The morning went by and then at two o'clock he called and said he had overslept.  Seems the job he has in Anaheim had a major problem and the electricity was damaged and most of the area was blown out.  He said he had to get a sub from Malibu and had spent most of two nights awake, hence the oversleeping. He was in his Hummer heading for San Diego.

He went on for forty five minutes about the job sight and problems while driving to his San Diego appointment with the doctor to see about his Aunt being able to travel to France to live with her son. Now I can understand problems and I can understand what went on, however, not once out of his mouth was and I'm sorry.  I was very pleasant on the phone but after I hung up I became more pissed at him.  He really lives in his own little self centered world and I have put up with more from hm then I've ever put up with from any man. Chemistry can only go so far.

I emailed him telling him enough was just about enough, and I wasn't happy about him standing me up.....I'm to old to put up with his crap.  He emailed me back saying the next time he would call me at 3:30 am and let me know.  Totally a smart ass.....two can play the game, so I emailed back and said," honey I would appreciate that."  I was going to email and say one word, "text." but decided I was tired of playing his games and didn't.

He left from San Diego to spend time with his younger son whose wife has just had a baby.  He is suppose to be here Thursday and Friday, but after our exchange I'm not sure he will come.  That is totally up to him and I'm not holding my breath. I'm tempted to not be home if he comes and see how he likes it.

In the meantime I sat home all weekend, which was fine, then last night, Monday I went to dinner with an ex neighbor of mine.  She and I meet about once a month or so, when she isn't traveling, and have a really nice time together.  I went through her divorce with her and her getting the man of her dreams thirty years ago.  We always have a lot to talk about.

Vet man sent me an email asking if Friday was okay to come pick up the five foot sofa I have I'm getting rid of.  It is part of a set of the sofa bed that I'm sending out the door.  The sofa bed isn't in great shape, since it is fourteen years old and has seen better days.  At least the fabric on it.  The bed itself has barely been used.  My new sofa should be here sometime in July so I need to make room.

My thirty five year old poet man who had one of his books published and available on Amazon, called "Pieces of Her Soul" keeps contacting me on Facebook wanting to connect.  He is house sitting in Palm springs right now.  I ordered his book and have read some of it.  He has a very bright mind and his command of the language and knowledge of women, for one so young, is amazing.  There are so many talented men.

Tonight I'm going to a meeting and my friends are picking me up for dinner first.

Hopefully things will iron themselves out, or maybe I just need to be using the iron to make it happen.

END OF THE WEEK......

Attended the meeting last night and there were only three of us plus the club manager. Seems everyone has somewhere else to be last night.  We did get a lot of things added and ironed out.  The man, who is a DA for the country led the meeting.  He was in a flap over the case load he had been handed that day.....sixty cases is way more then one man can handle.  The County doesn't have the money to hire more people so the work load is heavy.  My suggestion was, dismiss! dismiss! dismiss.!  He thought that was a fine idea.

Today Dez is suppose to come to take me out to lunch, whether he does or not remains to be seen since I haven't heard from him, although it is only 9:00 am in the morning.  He said he would be by early since he has to leave for a meeting with a doctor about his Aunt in San Diego.  I have never in my life met anyone that spreads himself so thin.  All things to everyone.

For some reason this week I've been in a funk.  I suppose one can't be happy all the time but this week has been exceptionally bad and I can't put my finger on why.  It isn't that I don't have plenty to do should I want to, but most of it leaves me very unsatisfied. I feel like I've been spinning my wheels and getting nowhere.  I know this too shall pass, but slogging through a bad week is hard.

Mikee, my Himalayan cat, went in this morning for a teeth cleaning plus a bath.  He was so funny this morning.  I couldn't feed him after ten at night and this morning he was sitting on top of his place mat just looking at me.  I suppose when I get him home I'll be punished in someway or the other for taking him into the Vets.  He makes himself as small as a nine pound cat can and tries to disappear in his carrier when I bring him in.....poor little guy.  So, Camille and I, she is my Siamese Himalayan cross are spending this morning together.  She is one wierd cat.  I've had her for seven years and she is still skittish and won't allow me to touch her.  If she wasn't so pretty she would be out of here.

Vet man emailed me to get my home address so he could send me a copy of a letter.  I don't know what that's about.  It isn't that he needs to know my address, he already knows where I live and has been here to pick me up to take me to meetings.  It will be interesting to see what the letter contains.

Off to get another cup of coffee and hopefully get in a better mood.

THINGS........

I've been home since Tuesday, today is Thursday and have been in the house being bored with housework etc. 

Dez called last night, two days late, but then that's him....Mr. Reliable, NOT!  He had a dinner meeting with the design people putting in the restaurant in Anaheim in Burbank.  He was suppose to come over Thursday and we were going to go out to a movie, but he now has a meeting most of the day with the architects and others that screwed that idea up. 

He needs to drive to San Diego on Friday and said he would come by early and we would go out to lunch.....we'll see how that works out or if.

Today I'm headed to Costco with a friend to purchase items for the Veteran's BBQ on Saturday.  I'm waiting for her to pick me up.  The sprinkler man showed up and he is working on my errant sprinklers.  I thought I'd better get someone to look at them since my water bill has been close to one hundred dollars each month.  It used to be thirty seven and took this huge leap several months ago.  Trying to find someone that can fix things is sometimes hard.

Just returned from my Costco run with my friend.  We got everything but sugar free cookies.  She said she would go to Staters to see if she could find them....so our mission was a success.

Now I need to regroup for the meeting tonight, which means changing clothes and perking myself up to be in a better mood to attend a meeting that I really feel doesn't need me there.  I think, since I'm the only women that is on the committee , at this time, they need me to point out the error of their ways when they get off track.

So, with that being said I'll close for now.

MEETINGS....

I attended my two hour morning meeting and then swung by Home Depot for a new fountain pump , 2nd Street Beauty for some OPI nail polish, the bank to cash a check, then the nail salon for a polish change. Dez had used my car to go to his meeting the day before and had filled the tank with gas so that errand was something I didn't have to do. I always have a few little "honey dos" for him when he comes and he is more then happy to do them for me. The fountain pump removal was one on Sunday and when he returns he said he would install the new pump.. 

Last nights meeting at the Orange Elks regarding assigning the various things that needed picked up for the Veterans BBQ went well. My friends picked me up and we went a little early.  They were suppose to serve tacos but it ended up being individual pizzas.

We sat at the bar and ordered our pizzas.  Vet man walked in, he was expected, and we finished our pizza and went into the meeting.  I think the event for the Vets that live in the transition house will be a success. Our committee is pretty well versed in what needs to be done and what items need to be purchased or supplied.  I think it will be a good event for these poor guys that don't get much from our government in the way of extras.

We finished the meeting and left the Lodge.  We looked at each other and decided that tiny pizza, which was minimal wasn't going to do it for dinner.  We walked over to Watson's Drugs and had something to eat before we drove home.  While I was sitting there I had a text from Vet man saying he was headed home.  I sent a text back saying feel better as he had his cold back again. I got another text back saying, "you look gorgeous as always."  ah, flattery will get you everywhere.. Ha!

There was a younger girl at the second dive bar we went to on Friday, that made it a point to come up to me at the bar, and say, "I just have to tell you your beautiful."  Now, I don't understand what would make a young gal, who was attractive in her own right, come up to a seventy two year old women and say that, but it was nice to hear...little does she know that I thank the "God's of Makeup"for helping me keep it together, at least somewhat.  Dez's take on the comment was that by her saying that she was saying that she would never hope to be and had low self esteem.  Interesting how that man's mind works.

Dez was going to call me yesterday to let me know when he found out about his meeting day.  Of course he didn't which leads me to believe that he doesn't know yet.  He really is my will-o-the-wisp, with him the only thing for sure is nothing is for sure....but then I wouldn't like him if he was vanilla.  Vanilla is so boring!

Today is a day that I will try and do somethings around this house. 

Off to accomplish them!