Yesterday, Sunday, I did meet up with studio man at the Balboa Bay club for brunch. I still didn't want him to come by my house so told him I would meet him there. In retrospect that was a very wise plan.
He arrived about three minutes after I did and walked into the lobby. He was shorter then I remembered, balder and really not my type. What was I thinking? He was very pleased to see me and as we walked back to the dining room it was the touchy feely guy thing. We had talked, in the last three months or so ,quite a bit on the telephone, so I suppose he thought that gave him license. I hate being mauled in public, especially by someone that you really don't have a connection to.
We did have a great brunch with a window table looking out at the water. Of course all I could think of was how was I going to get out of this date gracefully. The conversation was good and basically saved what could have been a dismal time. He kept telling me I was more beautiful then he remembered. Brownie points.
After brunch we walked down the hall to and stopped at the boutique that is in the Club. I always like to check out what is in the store, just in case I find something. He wanted to buy me something, but I thought better of it. I didn't want to be obligated to him in any way. He paid the valet parking and we drove to the shopping center to find the movie we had wanted to see.
His comment, which I had heard him say before, was that a man should show his wealth on his women, His women? I don't think so. I find one theme is prevalent with most of the men I meet and that is they are all looking for a permanent relationship and want someone to love them. A big on- going theme is they want someone to cuddle in bed. Yeah right, cuddle (guess they changed the word for sex somewhere down the line.) I suppose a little bit of me wants someone to love me, but I'm really not going to jump at the first man out there that offers to take care of me. Especially not a short, balding, Jewish man that was draped with gold. Didn't the seventies go away a while back?
He had driven for three hours to come to Orange County from the Valley and we had only been at brunch for two hours. I suggested we go to a movie but that didn't turn out. One theatre was being renovated and the other group of theatres wasn't showing the movie we wanted to see.
He didn't want to go home and suggested we go for a drink. After trying one place that didn't open until five o'clock we walked next door to a place that was open. Two drinks later, all I could think of was getting out of the place and sending him on his way. He had big plans to come home with me which I kaboshed. Again, the touchy feely thing and this time with a kiss that had his tongue in my mouth....Ugh....why do men think that you want to do that, first of all out in public and second of all with someone that you've known for a nano second and have no connection with in any way shape or form. Again, the valet brought the cars forward and he paid, and I took off like a shot for home.
Today I had a message from him that said I needed to think about all the things we had talked about. Our conversation, at least on my end, was I was on a different page then he was and I was seeing someone I liked,(Desi) and there were many reasons why I didn't want a relationship at this time. I emailed him back stating exactly what I had told him and this time ended it with "I wish you the best in finding someone that meets your needs," and it wasn't me. So another man bites the dust.
Today I heard from several men on one of the sites. One was kind of my type, but his lifestyle wasn't for me. I have found, not to be a snob, if they live in a certain area they usually don't fit into my world.. Financially they don't fit the bill and what they enjoy doing isn't anything I would consider doing. Rv's, I don't care if there million dollar ones, are rv's and camping is camping. Not this girl. These men really don't read as I have all that stated in my profile.
I'm sitting here waiting for my friend so we can go out to dinner, She just returned from her trips and I'm looking forward to having a nice evening playing catch up.
More tomorrow.
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