CONVENTION......

I got through the convention fairly easily.  It was a group of ladies from all over the State of California that do charity work through the Emblem Club which is part of the Elks.  I do know now why I have no desire to be involved with a bunch of women.  Good Lord you would think they are running the world.  So many of them have issues with everything from seating to when one is able to start their jobs.  I got roped into this convention by a friend of mine who does get involved at a higher level then I would ever want. There were three hundred of them attending.

The center pieces I made were a hit and the extras that I had left sold out fast.  If I knew that so many people wanted to take one home I would have made more, although forty two was a lot to do. I just don't want to be in their cross hairs to do anything else with this group.

I've belonged to this club for many years and have avoided being to active.  I pick and choose what I want to do an so far it has worked out.  It will stay that way.

The Hilton in Ontario was a fairly new hotel and the rooms were huge.  I stayed alone, hate sharing baths etc with someone else, especially someone that is only a casual acquaintance.  My Co-chair and her husband drove me up and brought me back.  There were men that attended the banquet so it wasn't all women and that added another dimension.

So, back to the dating site.  I've heard from several men that live in the area.  I just got back on the computer so I responded today.  I really don't care if I hear back from them or not. 

Playing catch up today with laundry, bill paying and actually reading the LA Times for a change.

No word about the baby arrival from Dez.  Vet man is also in the wind.  Nothing else to report today and tomorrow, Monday, I have a full day with a meeting and a doctor appointment.

Onwards!

ELECTRICAL MALFUNCTIONS.....

It has been very strange not hearing from Dez for a week he has been totally "off the grid."  He usually either calls, texts or emails.  None of those happened.  Finally an explanation.  Seems since the tornadoes in Alabama the power has been out for most.  FEMA is taking all the building supplies and according to Dez commercial projects are the last in line.  Plus power is not restored to cell towers etc.  He also said he had purchased a new laptop and things weren't working properly.  At least that's his excuse and he is sticking to it.  He said that he had lost half his crew as they went home to put their houses back together.  Per Dez, understandable. He said he would be home soon....that could be in another week or more since his son's baby is still thinking about coming out in this cold cruel world. Everyone is sitting on pins and needles waiting for this baby which is the first for his youngest son and his wife. Dez has been busy putting out fires.  When you run your own business it is a twenty four seven job.

Tuesday night I got home at eleven from the meeting.  It was long, boring and I sat there wondering how the hell I ended up sitting in Santa Ana at the Elks which is a long way away from my previous life in Beverly Hills and places in L.A.and Santa Monica.  Living behind the "Orange Curtain" (that is what Dez calls it) wasn't my idea of a place to end up. I suppose it could be worse.  I could still be living in Ohio or worse yet Nebraska or some God forsaken place like that.

I did go to another movie today.  My girlfriend and I went to see Chimpanzee which was very well done and a sweet documentary by Disney.  I certainly enjoyed it more then Hunger Games.  We had lunch at Opah first and after the movie went shopping at Stein Mart and TJ MAXX......never one to miss an opportunity to shop.  I didn't buy anything at Stein Mart and one dress at TJ MAXX. Probably didn't need that but it was a  color block Calvin Kline and cheap.

The weather is strange.  Hot, cold, rainy, sunny....you name it we have it all in the same day.  If it had been still I would have said earthquake weather.

Tomorrow I'm packing for my sojourn to Ontario and the Hilton Hotel for the convention I'm co chairing for the State President of the Emblem Club.  I'll be glad when it is over.  I finished the forty two center pieces, made the star wand entrance pieces and now it is a matter of setting things up and getting everything ready. 

I found out that I'll be able to come home the next morning at 11:00 a.m.  I had this horrible thought I'd be stuck there until that evening but I found out that isn't the case.\\

Home tomorrow.

MORE STUFF.......

Sunday I again was picked up by Brian to go to the Elks to volunteer at a breakfast being served.  It is something they do once a month and it is a fund raiser.  There were only seventy people instead of the usual one hundred and fifty due to the fact that there was a big dance the previous night.

I sold tickets at the door after helping set up.  One gets a free breakfast, which I really didn't need, but took anyway. Calories! Calories!

This morning, Monday, I had a good morning text from Vet man who had attended a big dance, not the same one on Saturday.  He actually has a girlfriend but seems to not be to interested in her.  He said he had an obligation to finish out a year and that is what he is doing. Since I find him a really nice man that is willing to help me I'm not worried about his obligations.  Life is complicated for all of us.

I also had a call from my tall age appropriate man that I've talked to and seen off and on for the last almost two years.  He is trying to reinvent himself after gong through six million dollars.  A little hard at seventy two and with this economy.

I drove to a meeting this morning and then met my friend to go to the movie Hunger Games.  I found the movie more then disturbing and wondered what kind of a twisted mind would dream up this kind of story and make money at it to boot.   This is the kind of things our children are reading and I can't find one redeeming thing about making it.  I wouldn't have gone if my friend didn't want to see it.

Wednesday I'm headed out to see Chimpanzee which is a documentary and looks like it should be charming and heartwarming.

We had an earthquake today while I was standing in CVS and honest to God I didn't feel it.  Everyone else did.  The cashier was freaking out.  I'm wondering why these things go over my head as this wasn't the first time I had no reaction to shake, rattle and roll.  The only reason I mentioned it was because I finally got to Postal Annex to send the San Diego man his glasses and he sent me a text asking if I felt it.  His concern was that the epicenter was close to San Onofre.  Another reason to get rid of reactors and whatever else is going to get us in the end.

Dez is on the down low and I'm not stirring the pot.  Tomorrow, Tuesday I'm headed out for another meeting at night thanks to Brian picking me up, Wednesday the movies, Thursday is up for grabs, unless Dez comes back into town and then Friday I'm overnight at the convention at the Hilton in Ontario.

Busy, busy week.

I

CHANGES.......

My friend Brian picked me up in his new car to take me to the Marine Corp Ball meeting.  He had gone through some rough patches the last several years and if anyone deserves something new it is him.

We walked in and Vet man and my DA friend were sitting at the bar. Vet man is still coughing like he is going to die, but said he felt okay.

We moved to a table and convened our meeting after everyone arrived. We actually got a lot accomplished.  We chose the band, food being served, price of tickets and ironed out some important details.  Vet man had to leave for another meeting, Brian and I stayed for dinner.  There was another women's meeting that I was suppose to attend that I missed due to the length of the MCB meeting.

Yesterday I went out to my car to put something in it and on the dashboard there was a glass case.  Guess what?  Idiot San Diego man forgot his prescription sunglasses.   I really debated about contacting him about them, but since I would appreciate it if someone let me know if had forgotten mine.  So, I texted him and asked him to text me his address and I'll send them to him.  More then he deserves for sure. He said he had no idea where he had left them.

Marcia called yesterday about going to the movies and she had forgotten that she had to be at Apple to go over her new phone. We decided to make our movie date for Monday.

The State convention that I'm so chairing in Ontario is coming up next week and I need to finish up some decorations and decide what I'm going to wear.  It envolves an evening gown and since I've lost weight none of mine fit anymore.  I'm not buying a new one for this thing that is for sure.

Off to start my day.

MEETINGS ETC.............

Thursday's meeting for the Marine Corp Ball was extremely fruitful. The five of us, four men and me, decided on a Band, price, offering of two different meals, color guard and fliers.  Since we have been meeting for months, this is the first time we have really made progress. We are hoping after things are finaled we can get more people from the District to volunteer to help.  We still need to get the tickets made, opportunity prizes etc.  I've done so many functions through the years that the only difference with this one is that it involves men.  We'll see how this works out.

We set a date for the next meeting and the head of the District had to change it due to a conflict.  There were an email between our local man and the District man that turned into a little snarky exchange.  The boys aren't playing nice in the sand box. I"m sure this is just a small blip.

I worked on my star wands, which if I say so myself turned out great.  I'm gearing up for next Friday's trip to Ontario and the Hilton.  My big concern is what evening gown to wear....I know everyone should have that concern.  The problem is that hardly anything fits me as they are to big.  Another non problem, problem. I'm sure I'll find something in the back of my closet that I can jerry rig.  The gown I was going to wear is way to sexy for that group so it will remain in the closet until I can bring it out for the next function that demands that type of dress.

My brother is back in northeast Ohio in meetings with his college board that he is on.  He will be visiting relatives while he is back in Ohio. I suppose one of these days I need to haul my butt back there to see people.  My only thought is that the key word is from and returning is a scary thought. I always feel like I'll never get out of that state once I return.

Haven't heard from Dez for a day or two.  I know he is in Alabama and I don't know if his eighth grandchild has been born. I hope so.  I figure he'll tell me if that happens.  It will delay his coming back to California if it happens next week,  but duty is duty. He is still bitching about the birth screwing up his April work. 

Vet man has sent me texts almost daily.  When we were sitting at the table at the MCB meeting several guys, that I know, who have wives, came by and there wasn't one of them that didn't stop kiss me hello or put their arms around me.  The table boys told me to stop flirting.  Really? Vet man expecially razzed me about it.

I wish I wasn't so picky.  There are very few men I'm attracted to or that I want to go out with and when I do decide to go out it is usually a disaster, to wit the San Diego guy.  You would think after having over six thousand men view my profile on Match that I would be able to find one that is acceptable besides Dez.  Not so. I left Senior People Meet, where Dez contacted me, and several other sites. I came so close to not meeting Dez as I thought he was way to young.  He literally begged me to meet him for coffee, which turned into lunch and a six hour meeting.  Young or not there is something there for both of us, which he has admitted to.  Pheromones I suppose.  We keep saying our relationship is casual and I'm hoping in a lot of ways it stays that way.  He is to much of a bad boy and as I told him he basically is a player and a sports dater.  He wasn't happy with that title, but if the shoe fits.  I use to be and could be again, but the choices of men are so sad out there in the big old world, it seems like way to much trouble. Dez travels way to much to have any permanent relationship and as for me I don't think I want a permanent anything.  Although I've learned to never say never.

So after planting some pots, washing clothes,cleaning, and fluffing myself up I'm ready to relax.  Tomorrow I'm volunteering at a breakfast in the early a.m.

Happy Saturday!

TUESDAY AND WEDNESDAY.....

Tuesday my good friends picked me up to take me to dinner and a meeting. It was a nice evening and we all enjoyed it. I am so very lucky to have such accommodating people in my life.  They are so willing to do so much for me.

My friend Connie's husband Jerry passed away Monday evening in the hospital.  He had been sick for so long and just miserable.  It was really a blessing for both of them. She is trying to get through things and thank heaven she has a great son that is helping her.  She has borderline dementia and is having a hard time understanding things and retaining information.

To go on to the San Diego man.  OMG.....I had sent him that email saying to bury the idea that just because he was driving a hundred miles to see me he wasn't spending the night unless he got himself a motel.  He didn't answer me so I really didn't know if he was coming up or not.  I sent him a text saying I assumed that he wasn't coming after the email I sent. He called immediately and said he was coming and the email did upset him as he wasn't planning on staying.  He said that he was thinking about what he said that was wrong.  How about saying your bringing you dog so you would have him with you just in case.

He called on the way and said he was in traffic due to an accident on the freeway.  When he finally  arrived he had a lovely bouquet of flowers for me.  He wasn't bad looking, but old looking for sixty,  tall and so nervous he never shut up.  I kept looking at him wondering how I was going to get through an evening with him. He told me he couldn't believe my age and was awe struck.  Nice to be fluffed up but not a new statement.

He brought his own wine, fine with me, had a drink and chattered away and I finally suggested we leave for the restaurant.  We ended up taking my car since his was some sort of van thing. When went in and sat in the bar ordered a drink and he went on and on.  He was also a touchy feely guy that totally turned me off.  I kept telling him that on a first date one doesn't paw.  Again I kept thinking how the hell was I going to get out of this date.

The waitress and owner, both who I know were so sweet, I think they knew this wasn't working out very well. They both kept coming over to the table and checking on me.  He really was a piece of work and had the oddest personality.  He traveled to a lot of places on business that one wouldn't want to go.  Iraq, Algeria, etc.  Sounded awful.

Two hours later that were painfully long ended when I said we needed to leave. When the bill came he said he had forgotten his money and it was in his briefcase in his van.  He had forty five dollars with him and the bill was eighty six plus tip and valet. We had had two drinks and two small plates of bar food.  Fried eggplant chunks and cut up prime rib pieces.  I ponied up the balance of the bill  and thought this was just great...another nail in his coffin.

On the way back home I just told him he wasn't really someone that I wanted to see again and I wished him luck on finding someone.  This was a date through a dating site and I have found after almost two years of doing this off and on that most of the men are not acceptable.

He wasn't happy about it but took it better then I thought.  Since I had probably mentioned Dez a lot through the evening, deliberately ,he knew that there was someone else I liked.  So after coming in and getting his bottle of wine he left and of course didn't offer to reimburse me the money.  However I just couldn't wait for him to leave money or not.  He left without incident.   Thank God! Another lesson learned. I did get off the dating site and hope I don't have to deal with strange weird men in the future.  He definitely was the strangest man personality wise.

Dez had fixed a the two towel bars for me and when I went to hang a towel on the long one half of it fell off the wall.  I emailed him telling him about it and he called me immediately.  He said he had only fixed the one side and told me I needed to get a new bar as this one was put in wrong and the screws weren't set correctly.  He sounded tired and was bitching about his April being screwed up due to the fluctuating due date of his son and wife's first baby.  He told me he was planning on being back next week either Wednesday or Thursday  Since he is in Florida and leaving for Alabama today his schedule is tight and was going to try to get down to see me.

I have to be in Ontario over night for a State convention that I'm co-chairing so depending on baby arrival I'll see him, maybe.....

Vet man still isn't feeling well but we have a Marine Corp Ball meeting tonight, Thursday, and he said he would be there.

So, that is my two days and tomorrow, Friday ,my friend Marcia and I are going to the movies.

More later.

Monday-----------

I just returned from my meeting in South East Irvine.  Now to get ready, yet once again, to go out for my doctor's appointment.

I heard from the San Diego man twice yesterday.  He is quite the talker.  I have a feeling that meeting him will be a giant waste of time.  He can be a little tedious on the phone and I found myself glazing over while he was talking. Non stop verbal chatter bores me.

Around nine Sunday evening he called again to just chat because he was bored.  I will say you find out a lot, most of it you don't want to know about, but I find that a lot of men are Mr. Talkington's,  He told me about his six foot mom who lived in St. Louis.  How he was an only child...etc., etc, etc.

Had to leave for my appointment and am now back. My good friend Judy took me to Laguna Niguel so I could get zapped by the dermatologist.  He also took three biopsies of things to send to the Lab. So great to get older with age spots, barnacles etc.  This guy was great and very, very thorough. Finally a dermatologist that will remove things you want gone. Yea!

So, now it is home, ironing and relaxing.


Tomorrow is another day.

A DEZ WEEKEND....

Friday arrived with the predicted bad weather.  I kept waiting for a phone call cancelling Dez and my date.  It didn't happen,  He arrived an hour earlier then expected. If nothing else he is full of surprises.

Dez had made reservations at a restaurant and dancing place in Laguna Niguel.  We originally were suppose to go to a 70's dance party on Saturday night and I had already asked people to join us. He had emailed me that week saying he couldn't go and used the excuse of his son and wife's new baby being born and the date was iffy.  I understood but wasn't happy that he told me way to late and I had already asked people.

To make a long story short we did go out Friday night and as he was sitting there he announced that he was going to cancel his hotel and plans for early the next morning in the desert and wanted to be with me one more day.  I think the man has totally gone out of character.  That was fine with me as we have a great time together and laugh a lot even though he can be a giant pain in the butt sometimes.  I know I can be too. Opposite sides of the coin.

So, to make a long story short he did stay one more day, we did go to the 70's dance Saturday night and he left early Sunday morning to go bid his job in the desert.  He will be coming back to Beverly Hills on Monday and then leaving Tuesday for Florida and Alabama then depending on baby arrival will be in Arizona.  When he left he said it would be at least ten days to two weeks before he got back to me. I won't be taking that to the bank.

I have a busy week coming  up.  A meeting on Monday and a dermatology appointment in the afternoon.  Then Tuesday a meeting in the evening for the Vets.  Wednesday I have cocktails and bar food with a new man coming up from San Diego to meet me at four o'clock.  Thursday another Marine Corp Ball meeting and so far Friday, Saturday and Sunday I'm home free.

I did have a text from Vet man Saturday and I told him that Dez was here.....so far I haven't heard anything else.  He knows about Dez so it was not a surprise for him.

Today, Sunday, is a catch up day.  Washing clothes, and basically not much else.

FRIDAY IS HERE.....

Last night, Thursday, Vet man came to the house to pick me up and take me to a meeting in Santa Ana.  Thank God he did. I would have been totally lost in that area.  We had a hard time finding the building we needed.  He parked the car and there were lots of people milling around.  I thought perhaps they were just GQ public, but we found out they were the homeless that camped out in that area.  It is so sad to see so many people without a roof over their head.  You would think in this great country we would address the problem and do something about it.  I know a lot of them have mental problems but somewhere there should be help for them. Had I gone alone I would have been totally freaked out.  I would have gone the wrong way right in between them all.  so many of them were yelling and cursing and acting crazy one never knows what might transpire.    Vet man was very protective and kept asking if I was okay. I was, but very glad he was there.

Vet man really did go above the call of duty.  He had a really bad cold and had spent the day trying to get better.  I gave him a cup of tea with lemon when he came to pick me up and he said that made him feel better.  The poor guy was coming back to pick me up at 9:00 p.m. which turned out to be 9:30 as things ran longer then expected.  So there he was standing out in the cold waiting for me. I really owe him one and I just hope it didn't make him sicker

He still wasn't feeling well and I just got out of the car when we arrived and went in the house so he could get himself home. Vet man was leaving early this morning to go to Burbank to a Veterans meeting and then going to a Dodger game.  If nothing else he keeps busy and then some.

I had a text from Dez yesterday about him coming down today.  My house has the tendency to literally start falling apart on its on.  Weeks ago I had two towel bars just fall off the wall.  Interesting since one of them is never used and is only for decorative towels.  Dez tried to fix it when we got back from Palm Desert but the screw was stripped and he said he would fix it when he came back. Since he is so busy and his mind is certainly on other things other then fixing my towels bars, I thought I better remind him to bring his little bag of tricks when he came down. This morning I replied to his arrival time text asking him to remember to bring his tools and his reply is "will do."  We'll see.

The text I had from him this morning said he would be arriving around 5ish today.  The weather is iffy.  They have predicted rain, hail, tornadoes....right now it is sunny.  Crazy weather.  Although I think that the Valleys and the Mountains will get the extreme weather.  Orange County is a lot milder and San Diego milder yet.

So depending if the Gods of weather keep smiling, he may or may not be here around 5ish.  It is Friday and it will be a two to three and a half hour drive from Beverly Hills, which is ridiculous since it is only forty five miles away. Ah, California freeways. He has to leave for Blythe to bid a job in the morning...a real garden spot...NOT!

The other person I heard from is a Huntington Beach man that wants to have lunch next week.  I find it interesting that the minute I returned to a dating site the men that I had gone out with before came back.  Everyone seems to be having their own problems and are just now surfacing.  Jobs, family, and various other things have kept everyone off the radar, me included.

Have a good weekend, I'll see how things go with Dez.

TIME FLIES....

I can't believe how fast this week went by.  It occurred to me as I was sitting in front of the computer paying bills that I hadn't added anything to my Blog this week.  So I will try to update things.

Since I was in such a funk for Easter weekend and really didn't feel that great I put everyone off as I stated  before.  Monday I did make a dinner date with the guy that I had seen several times that tootled off to Afghanistan and is going back the end of the month.  He works for a company that supplies food for the troops.  Dangerous job as he is located in a camp when he goes over there, that is surrounded by supposed friendly Afghanistan troops.  I wouldn't trust them as far as out the front door with the way Americans are viewed in this world.

We went to Quinn's and had a nice time.  His statement was that in the last year the thing he missed most was touching another human being, meaning a women, of course.  He was very attentive, but my radar was up.  I kept thinking "horny" was probably in the equation.  He has always been a perfect gentleman, and although he is a lot younger then I, I think I really am a cougar, and can't stand the old men that act like they are one hundred and two. I'm really genetically lucky that I can still attract anyone at my age. he  was very sweet.

After dinner we drove back to my house and had a night cap.  He was a needy little devil but I explained that I wasn't jumping in the sack with him and that he really was to young.  Not to mention he was leaving again the end of this month.  He was pretty understanding, not happy, but understanding. Guess I am only a semi cougar. At least he was old enough and respectful enough to know that no meant no.  If I hadn't know him and been out with him several times before he wouldn't have been invited to the house. Very, very few men are allowed to come to my home.

Through the whole day and into the next  I kept getting text messages from Vet man. He wanted to come over after his meeting on Monday and of course I couldn't see him with Afghanistan man present. Dez was off the radar and I kept in mind that if really wanted to get in touch with me he would. I had no idea when he was coming back from up North and didn't ask. I also didn't email or text him as I would have done in the past.  He made the first effort Easter Sunday which was unusual for him.

Tuesday. after our date Monday,  I sent Afghanistan a note that I didn't think it was a wise idea for us to continue seeing each other now or when he got back.  I told him age, logistics and my feelings for someone else came into play. those things sounded better then anything else I could think up.  I received a email back from him saying he appreciated me being up front with him.  I can't imagine what he expected either now or in the future. I'm certainly to old for him. At a certain age it is hard to connect with anyone for men and women alike. He kept telling me I made him feel comfortable.  that's me, an old shoe!

Tuesday was another day of emails from Vet man and text.  I had a text from my ride to the Elks asking if I wanted to go to the meeting.  I begged off and told him perhaps next week.  I had a dental appointment, gas, shopping and a million other things and I was plain pooped.

Wednesday, today, I had an early email from Dez.....he asked if we were still on for Friday.  Since I really don't depend on what he says, I waited a little while to answer him.  He says he is coming down, but it will be interesting as it is suppose to rain and it is Friday.  He wants to go dancing and I have my choice of the Balboa Bay Club, Brio, Elks, Bistango etc.  I told him it was up to him where we went as I didn't care.  I can get dressed up for any of them and that is one of the reasons I love going out with him.  He loves sexy clothes and high heels and so do I and we go places I can wear them.

So today I had my hair trimmed, went to Trader Joe's, the Bank, CVS, and came home to do a little ironing. It rained over night and this morning so it feels good to hunker down and stay home.

My friend Connie is going through a lot and she had called me early this a.m. to tell me about her husband Jerry, who is in the hospital.  He was on life support and now they are sending him to Hospice.  Connie thought this was a plus and I just let her think so.  Hospice is usually the last resort.

So that is my week so far and after reviewing it, it seems busy. Vet man is picking me up tomorrow night to take me to a meeting and then we will see if Dez, who by the way sent me at least 5 emails today, actually shows up in the rain on Friday.

EASTER SUNDAY...

Another holiday gone.  I ended up doing nothing which was fine by me.  I had another chance to go to dinner but declined.

The guy that goes to Afghanistan called and wanted to go out and I said no but maybe tomorrow, Monday.  He just called me back and I agreed to go out with him tomorrow night.  He was more then agreeable.  I sent him the coordinates to get to my place, although he said with his GPS he could find it.  It is a lot of little short streets and I have found GPS units lead one around the primrose path to get to where your going.  This man is fairly young, but he is tall and personable so it should be a nice evening.

Dez sent me an email mail this morning wishing me a "Hoppy" Easter and I responded in same.  It was a surprise since I expected nothing from him. A card and email, has he lost his mind? It is suppose to rain on Friday, when he is suppose to some down, and since traffic is so horrendous in the best weather, I don't look for him to make it. If nothing else he is a pile of contradictions. So we will see.

My age appropriate man called and said he had gotten tied up with various people and apologized for not contacting me sooner about going out tonight.  I didn't feel great and wouldn't have gone anyway, but I kind of put him in the same pile as everyone else.  Unreliable.

Vet man didn't touch base all day and I sent him a text saying Happy Easter and he responded that he was getting ready to go out to dinner.  This was at 3:30 so I'm assuming friends asked him over.  I know never assume.  Who really cares.

So Easter is over and out and the next holiday is Memorial Day.  One by one.

I MUST BE GETTING OLD...

I don't know if I'm getting old or if I have just had it with men...a little of both I think.  My San Diego man called today to talk. He said he really enjoyed talking to me and wanted to come up today, Saturday.  I begged off.

Vet man called after the baseball game he attended and asked if I wanted him to bring me dinner, I declined.  A scotch and water alone sounded better to me. He really is a nice man.

Then my tall age appropriate guy called and asked me to go to listen to some music tomorrow, Easter Sunday, in Newport Beach.  I told him to call me tomorrow and ask me.  He agreed to do so.

I was invited by a good friend of mine's daughter to come to brunch with them and I again said no.  I don't know what's wrong with me, but it all sounds like a giant effort.  My Age appropriate guy said that astrologically things were in the commode until April 14th.  He may be right. 

So my kitties and I are staying  home and enjoying our time together.  Sometimes doing nothing is better then doing anything.

FLOOD GATES.....

Seems I've opened the flood gates of dating.  I've heard from several men in the last day, some that I've been in contact before a year or so ago and one that is a newbie.

All of these men wanted to go out this weekend.  The new one from San Diego wanted to come up yesterday to meet me in person.  Since I wasn't feeling great I declined and told him perhaps tomorrow would be better. He said, " if you'd like we can do Saturday or Sunday. 

Then a call from a man that is traveling to Afghanistan for business....something to do with food and a company that supplies it.  He wanted to go out Friday too and when I declined asked, " how about Saturday or Sunday." I sense a theme. So now I have to decide if I want to meet the new man who is also an international traveler for business or see the one that I know from before. Or do nothing.  I'm leaning towards nothing.

Vet man emailed me all day yesterday and didn't know if he was available for Saturday.  Since I didn't have him in my radar book I didn't care what he was doing. Although he checked on me last night to see how I was feeling. He is "plan B" as I am for him.

A man that was just chatty last year contacted me.  He lives about one hundred miles away and wanted to touch base.  He has always been very respectful and just benign which I think is a plus.  I've no interest romantically, but he is nice to email.

Dez actually sent me an Easter card.  He seems to be trying to be a good boy, but he is who he is and I'm still not buying his good boy routine.  He is spending the weekend with his step grand kids up North.

Oh dear, as I'm typing this my cell rang and it was Vet man.  He was checking to see how I was doing today and if I needed anything.  He offered to bring dinner for me tonight.  I still am not up to par and basically don't care if I see anybody, including him. 

It seems when it rains it pours.  I really didn't want to start this dating dance again.  I'm not sure if it is better to stay home and be bored or to go out and be bored.  All of it seems to be a giant waste of time.

Have a good Saturday.

ACHY.....

Last night I went to a meeting and as I was leaving I could barely walk.  My right knee, the one I had the replacement knee done, decided to ache and hurt behind the knee.  By the time I got home my whole body was hurting.  Wrists, legs shoulders etc.

I went to bed early and couldn't get comfortable.  I did sleep a little but woke up at three a.m.  I decided to get up and take the last two Hydrocodon pills I had from my surgery.  I woke up feeling a little better, but it is still there.  I'm now trying Aleve, the miracle pill that works for everything, at least for me. I'm still having aches and I imagine it will go away. I don't feel bad, just achy.

I talked to two of my friends this morning who are alone and widows.  It is interesting how the feelings you have are universal no matter how good or bad things ended. We were lamenting how different things were and how none of us expected our lives to end up like it has.  I guess the biggest thing one can do is adjust.  Life is to short.

Vet man sent me a text last night to say he had a late night in Garden Grove and was happy to be home and also to say goodnight.  I will say he is consistent.  This morning he sent me a text asking how I was.  I sent him a reply relaying my aches and pains.  Not that it will do any good.

Dez is headed North for the weekend.  He said he was leaving from LAX and his son-in-law would  have a car waiting for him.  Since his daughter is not his biological daughter I assume (I know assume is a word that can drive you crazy) that his ex-wife will be going with him.  It sounds like a relationship that one of my good friends has with her ex-husband.  They are in business together and are actually spending Easter in New York City.  He boyfriend is in England at this time and will probably be there for months.

Relationships are so different then what they use to be way back when.  Since I seem to have a foot in both camps I have to decide if I like either camp. I've never liked being an afterthought I know what I should pick.

Off to do some things around the house.

ANOTHER CALL.....

I had a cell phone call from the man that I saw several years ago.  He wants to take me to dinner per his message.  I was out with my girlfriend for lunch and missed the call.  I always think it is rude to have your cell phone on when you are with someone else.  I did call him back that evening but missed him. I left a message so we will see if he gets back to me.

We were discussing, at lunch yesterday, how everyone seems to be so busy you can't keep up with things.  It seems that life is getting more hectic instead of less.  Technology hasn't made things easier, it has made things more confused and it takes up so much time out of ones day.

I spent the afternoon at the bank yesterday trying to get paperwork straightened out.  You would think that at the beginning of a process the bank would know exactly what they needed, but oh no, they drag things out until the last minute and then ask for a copy of something they should have known they needed.  I know....bitch, bitch, bitch....

I heard from Dez too.  He says he is looking forward to seeing me and has decided to start calling me Luccia instead of Lucy...I'm not sure what that's about.  I think he just likes to amuse himself by changing things.  I sent him an email saying where the origin of our names came from.  Since I have many names from him, they are all a little different in meaning.  French, Italian, English meanings from laurel, light, beautiful etc.  I told him he could choose.  He sent an email back saying that beautiful worked for him.  I swear this man is a pile of contradictions.  His name fits him, wolf, desire and longing to name a few.  Italian and Spanish in origin. It is all very interesting.

Vet man send me five emails this morning.  He is getting to be more reach out and touch me with his words.  A man is a man is a man!

And last but not least.  There is a man in San Diego that is a world traveler....that is per his profile,,,, that wants to meet me and said he can't imagine that I would want to meet him. The way I feel about it is nothing ventured, nothing gained but he will have to come to me.  Since I don't contact anyone and they contact me the ball is in their court.

Since I've more or less shook myself and stopped having a pity party where Dez was concerned I feel a whole lot better.  It has been a tough couple of years being alone.  When you are married as long as I was it takes a while to regroup.

One positive thing yesterday was the boutique I modeled for asked me to model for them again at a country club near by.  I don't know if I'm going to but it is nice to be asked.

I'm off to clean floors....what fun.

VETS...

Waiting for my girlfriend to come pick me up so we can head down to the boutique that I modeled for to pick up the pants the gal forgot to bring.  After that we will go to lunch.

Last night I was picked up by some friends and we went to the Elks to attend the installation of the new officers and for a couple of us to pack boxes for the Vets to send to Afghanistan.  We managed to pack twenty six of them.  The items are greatly appreciated by the veterans who receive them.  We include candies, soups,  books, cookies, letters from grade school kids, toothpaste, brushes and any little item that is packable and will remind them of home.

The meeting was a little long but the new E.R. is very entertaining and it wasn't boring.  The Grand Pooh Bah was to funny as he led everyone that was being installed around the floor.  He is a tall man and most of the people were short so he was basically dragging his charges around the floor.  No decorum in that group.

My Vet man had a medical procedure today and I just heard from him.  Everything was fine so he is good to go.  One does have to maintain as one gets older.

Nothing else new right now so will sign off.

FORGOT HOW MUCH FUN EMAILS CAN BE..

I have officially rejoined the ranks of the prowlers on the dating site again.  I only dipped my foot in one this time.  Some of the men I heard from had contacted me previously and where happy to have me back.  I'm not so sure I'm happy to be back, but at least it is entertaining.

One boy and I do mean boy, age twenty four sent me a "your so sexy" email.  Now, I wonder what a young man, that actually isn't bad looking, would even think when he decided to whip out an email to a women that is old enough to be his grandmother and maybe great grandmother.  Interesting how the male mind works.

The other young man lived in Texas, age thirty one, sent me a cute email that said he had married me, divorced me, decided I could keep the condo in Hawaii all in his mind, and he would tear up the pre-nup. He really was amusing.  He also said he came to L.A. once in a while would like to be friends because I could teach him somethings.  Granted I could, but I never did like being a teacher.  I figure you should have you PhD in manhood before you meet me.  So I won't be answering back that's for sure.

Another Michigan man, a little older, but not much said he comes out and has a condo in Newport Beach and wouldn't I get together with him when he was here.  No way and another one that I'm not answering.

There is a man in San Diego a little more age appropriate that per his profile has traveled the world for business and is now staying put.  He did say he would be more then happy to visit some of the places again if his future partner wanted to.  At least he is 6'3" tall which is more then most of the men are on the site. 

The other guy, who says he loves older women and has contacted me about two years ago, is back trying to get me to meet him.  He isn't someone I want to meet so I'm not answering his many emails.  He is persistent though and I have to give him "a" for effort.

So my toes are wet in the dating pool and hopefully I can get my whole foot in sooner or later.  There are so many fish in the sea, just not appropriate ones. 

STARTING ANOTHER WEEK....

The Fashion Show was a great success.  There were over three hundred women in attendance and the money raised for charity was substantial.  I will say this was probably the most confused Fashion Show I've ever modeled in for anything. 

The gal that was in charge is very creative and artsy which leaves out organized.  Clothes that were suppose to be shown didn't show up, no one knew what scene we were suppose to wear what and at the last minute she decided we should be dramatic and dance to Phantom of the Opera. 

By the way, that was the theme of the show this year.  Phantom of the Opera.  However with the above being said, only the gals that were modeling knew how confused things were backstage.  the audience thought everything was wonderful and I suppose that is all that counts. with five changes of clothes and accessories it was a mad dash for everyone to get dressed and fluffed up.

Vet man called and asked me to go to the yacht club for an early dinner Sunday night. I said yes.It had been a rough week and after the Fashion show I was exhausted.  Stomping around in five different pairs of high heels for eight hours took its toll.  Not as young as I use to be that is for sure.  I was in bed early on Saturday night.

Right before Vet man was to pick me up I had a phone call from Dez.  I honestly thought we weren't going to see each other again, although due to some circumstances between us, neither one of us can say good bye at this point.  The conversation was actually decent and surface skimming.  He had a busy weekend with work and was way up in the valley area on Sunday.  He's leaving Friday to go North for Easter to be with one group of grand kids.  I just told him to have a good week and enjoy them.  I figure that the least interested I act, the better off I am.

He said he is planning on seeing me on the Friday after Easter but since his one son's baby is due around that time I just told him if he was able fine and if not fine too. after his cell cut out four times and he called back four times, we finally said goodbye.  He ended it by saying "good bye sweetie,: now where did that come from?

Today I'm off for a meeting and then home to pay bills.....how fun.